Monday, March 22, 2010

A Teenager And A Baby

My sweet friend B had a baby girl last night. She was named Macey and is a beautiful 9.5 oz chubby girl who meows like a cat (for now, lol).

B is a junior in high school and made a mistake that sadly many girls make but she got pregnant unfortunately.

I just came from visiting her at the hospital and both girls are doing very well. B has decided to place the baby for adoption with a very nice young couple who want a family very much. It has been a tough decision for B, understandably and she has vacillated over the past 9 months but who wouldn't?

I told her that knowing what I was like when I was her age, I just don't think I could have made that responsible choice and that I'm so proud of her for doing it. I know it's been hard but as for knowing how she feels, I don't. She walks that road alone.

I look at some of the really rediculously difficult things that people have to go through in their lives, decisions like the one B made and other things like losing a child, losing a spouse, your home being destroyed in a fire...just to name a few really tragic things - and I have to say that I lead a pretty charmed life so far. The worst thing I've probably been through in my adult life is a divorce, and while that is very devastating and horrible, it's not nearly as bad as some of these other things on my list. I just can't even imagine.

When you think of hard events like this, the first thing most people think is, "I could never cope with that - I just wouldn't make it!" but people do. All the time. They make it through somehow. I don't know how, and I'm sure for a time they are just ripped to pieces and they have to completely re-invent themselves in a new world but they do.

I am constantly impressed and amazed by peoples' strength - like my sweet friend B. I know she made the right choice and I'm glad she did for that baby, and for the adoptive family - and for herself. But I cry for her when I think of this next little while and what she'll be going through. 17 - and already doing what most people shudder to think about. What a strong and beautiful spirit she has. I just love that girl.

3 backward glances:

Rachel said...

Your visit probably meant the world to her. Life is so very hard when we make choices that take us down long roads, at least we're not alone.

Tiffany said...

I think birth mothers are some of the most courageous people in the world...to me, they exemplefy pure and total selflessness. Thank you for sharing.

Katie said...

I too can't believe some things that people have to go through. But you are right- we go through them, we survive, hopefully we learn and mainly I think we need to especially learn to be humble, to cast our burdens on the Savior and LEARN like we never have before. I'm sure your friend really appreciates your support.